I find it interesting how little I really consider the whole of a person in my day to day life. After I learned of my grandfather’s passing, I spent time collecting my memories the best I was able, and building my image of the complete man. Putting everything about a person together like that just isn’t something I do, and I was somewhat surprised by the person who came out.
Orvil Slang looms large in my memory. In amazing contrast to his smallish, wiry frame, he had a remarkable strength. Even past eighty, he could carry milk cans full of sap with an unbelievable amount of grace that embarrassed my early twenties physique. But beyond his physical traits towered his good-natured joy at life, loving companionship, appreciation for stories, resourcefulness, and of course, his unyielding tenacity.

One of my favorite things was to do with him was play smear, the mighty mid-west card game. He and Erik would fight a never-ending battle at the kitchen table against Grandma and me. Unafraid of being set, he would bet with a wild flair, and I was a bit jealous of his ability to throw caution to the wind and open with a bet of five without an ace. Grandpa played with a sparkle in his eye and a laugh for my dismay at how he could consistently outbid me. He was always having fun, win or lose.

I will remember him riding high on Dear John the John Deer in his Gillett Cement jacket and brown hat, steering more with the breaks than the wheel. Whenever he would duck low to get that great green tractor that always needed tinkering back into the shed, I always thought he would hit his head on the building. Of course, he never did. He had been putting that tractor away since well before I was born.
As a child, I had a fascination with his left hand. As I remember the story grandpa stuck his hand in a fire and grabbed some glowing red coals. The resulting burn left his hand with a somewhat unique appearance. While it functioned correctly, his finger nails had somehow morphed into dark, oddly shaped outcroppings on the end of his fingers that quit growing, yet never fell off. Whenever he would tell the tale, he seemed as fascinated by how his hand looked as I was.

About two months ago, my grandfather entered a nursing home, leaving the house he was born in and lived in his whole life. His failing body and mind had become too great a burden for my Grandma to care for by herself at the farm. Grandpa never really adjusted to his new home, and indeed showed his mischievous spirit in his attempts to return to the home he knew so well: scooting his wheel chair out the doors when no-one was looking, pulling the fire alarm, and finally in refusing oxygen by removing the tubes and tying them in knots. I’m sure those that were dealing with him didn’t enjoy the antics at all, but I find a comfort in them. He was claiming a sort of control in the new life that must have seemed very constricting compared with the 87 years he spent as his own master at the farm.
Grandpa’s body finally gave out on him this morning, and he passed away with his wife of more than sixty years at his side. He lived well, loved well, and he will be missed.
